Why More Women Don’t Come Forward

We are afraid to come forward.

Why are we afraid we’ll loose our jobs, our friends, our relationships, or our reputations if we say anything?

Why don’t we tell everyone he lied about us?

Why don’t we come forward when we are stalked by an older boss, who drives by our house while his trophy wife and two kids wait at home? Why don’t we file a claim after he brings us to lunch, orders wine, and puts his hand on our legs. Why are we afraid we’ll be blackballed from the job market?

Why don’t we say anything when our asses are grabbed at parties. Why do we say anything when they talk about our boobs in ways that make us uncomfortable. Why don’t we say anything when our roommate’s friend expects to have sex with us, but we don’t really want to, but we do. Why do we take drugs or drink stuff because some guy told us to try it?

Why do we brush it off when guys touch us or say rude sexual things to us? Why do we ignore it and just move on?

Why do we let guys pressure us into doing things we don’t feel comfortable with. Why do we think that if we say NO they won’t like us. Why do we care if guys like that like us?

Why do we stay with men who brag about conquests? Why do we forgive men who talk badly about women who aren’t considered pretty? Why do we spend time around men who are threatened by powerful women?

Why don’t we say anything when men compare us with numbers. Why don’t we do anything when they expect us to look like models, or centerfolds, or Barbie dolls?

Why don’t we do anything when we say NO, and then we are called a bitch, a cunt, or a whore? Why don’t their friends say anything when they call us a bitch, a cunt, or a whore?

Why are we afraid?

We don’t do anything because we’re told:

  • Get over it.
  • It wasn’t that bad.
  • He just likes you.
  • You’ll lose your job.
  • It was nothing.
  • You should have been more careful.
  • You could have said no.
  • It was your fault.
  • Nobody likes you.
  • You liked it.
  • You’re a slut.
  • You’re a bitch.
  • You’re crazy.
  • You’re a liar.
  • You’re a whore.
  • You’re stupid.
  • I will ruin your life if you tell anyone.
  • I am more powerful than you.
  • I will hurt you.
  • You don’t matter.

That is why women don’t speak up.

All of the stories above are from women I know. There are many more stories like this. Thousands of stories. More than thousands.

It isn’t bad-boy locker room talk. It isn’t just being friendly. It is offensive, it is unwanted, and it is WRONG.

~ MT


Girl in the The Woods: Allegory (Serial Novel, Part 16)

Girl in the Woods – A different take on the traditional fantasy/romance/fairy tale. Find out what happens when a Prince is expected to marry a Real Princess (who just happens to be addicted to drugs and other men.) Then add the president of an international technologies company who just happens to be a wizard with secrets of her own. Check it out from the beginning. This epic tale is a regular 2016 Friday Feature on Vampiremaman.com

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Girl in the Woodsis a serial novel, and a regular 2016 Friday feature here at Vampiremaman.com. This is the uncut and unedited version of a novel that has nothing to do with the rest of this blog. If you are new to Girl in the Woods please start from the beginning (Click here for all installments or see the side bar on the home page.) Like I said, it is a novel – an epic adventure of sorts. Have fun.

Part 16: Allegory

The Road to Allegory

A few hours after leaving Jake’s Alexander and his fellow travelers took the main road going west. They came to a small wayside inn. Around it were guards and soldiers.

A few men in odd clothing mingled around, they were members of the Allegory Redemption cult.

Tom went inside. Olivia could see him talking to some men inside. He came out…

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In response to Yahoo’s offensive article about why men date younger women.

Special Guest Article from Ms Todd

I’ve always thought it was a bit creepy when older guys go after younger women rather than women in their own age range.

 As the mother of a daughter, a daughter who is both beautiful and smart , I find this article extremely offensive.

It is so shallow and superficial and just plain sick. So here you go with my comments to these guys in italics. These men are see women as objects, not real women or friends. Of course older women don’t like these guys. Even younger women will find them disgusting. So here we go. Italics is me. Non-italics is from the article.

Ever feel like all the men your age are dating women half your age? OK, maybe not half your age, but you get the idea. What makes men attracted to women a decade or more younger than themselves? Is it just about looks and our youth-centric culture? Well, that’s part of it. But you might be surprised to learn the real reasons that go way beyond physical attraction.

Because they are assholes. That is the only reason why. It feeds their small brained, small dicked egos. Yes, I have strong opinions on this subject.
It’s all about the law of averages as you get older
“When you reach your mid-40s, it’s not so much that dating a younger woman becomes more attractive, it’s just harder not to date them. The law of averages means that proportionately fewer women your age are single. But dating a woman in her late 20s/early 30s when you’re approaching 40 is also less demanding; you’re not faced with the same requirements to make a decision about your future. When your new girlfriend is 36, she expects you’re thinking about the next few years, not just the next few dates.”
— Christopher, 38, Chicago, IL

Really? I know a lot of women who marry when they are in their late 30s. They are smart and attractive. Oh right. I forgot you don’t like smart women who expect you to be a grown-up real man. I forgot what an asshole you are.

Their carefree attitudes make younger women more appealing
“I’d say the allure is that younger women are less judgmental and less set in their ways. They don’t have a laundry list of what they want in a partner, a career or even life just yet. Younger women are more friendly, I suppose. I think that kind of attitude appeals to guys my age who want a relationship to really be on their terms.”
— Larry, 35, Edison, NJ

Dear Larry,

I know plenty of carefree women who are your age. They are just tired of putting up with dick weeds like you. Men like you are so fucking immature.

They let me embrace my inner goofball on dates
“Honestly, younger women are sometimes more open to having goofy good times than a woman who has a few years on her. You can invite them to the midnight showing of Guardians of the Galaxy without getting a skeptical look.”
— Marlon*, 39, Atlanta, GA

Dear Marlon,

I am the funny goofy one in my marriage. I’m in my 50’s and I’m always goofy. Well except now after reading your asshole remarks.  I’m the girl too. How about that? And so what are you going to do when your younger girlfriend wants to get serious and stop playing Tinker Bell to your Peter Pan? What will you do when she says “I can’t do a late movie because I have a meeting tomorrow.” Fuck you asshole. Guys like you are NO FUN. Grow up.

Fewer years of dating equals less emotional baggage to carry
“The appealing thing about younger women is their outlook on life. They tend to be untainted by experiences that have hardened older women. For example, when a woman’s been lied to a lot after years of dating, she always thinks that you’re lying to her, too. And that’s a turn-off. Younger women are less cynical, and that’s a big draw.”
— Alan*, 46, New York, NY

Dear Alan,

How about your emotional baggage? Do you think a woman in her 20’s wants to deal with that? Not to mention the baggage around your waist and your baggy flat old man butt and your limp dick that won’t work without those little blue pills.

Dating without an agenda means having more fun together
“What makes a younger woman a good catch? She’s not itching to have a ring on her finger. She’s interested in the here and now, in going out, in having fun. It may sound like a cliché, but it’s reality. I’m not anti-marriage, I’m just anti-agenda. A younger woman seems more willing to let things take their natural course.”
— Roger, 35, New York, NY

Dear Asshole, I mean Roger,

Most older women I know (older being over 30) date without an agenda. Who the fuck are you asking out. Of course older women won’t date you because you’re a jerk.

The ego boost helps me maintain my health and vitality
“When a guy reaches a certain age, he worries he will see his youth and vitality wane. A younger woman reaffirms for me that I’ve still got it going on.”
— Mike, 40, Orlando, FL


Dear Mike,

You’re an asshole. You see her as a sex object. She only wants you for your money. Younger women know how to fake it. With older women it is real (I’m not talking about love, I’m talking about multiple orgasms, something you obviously know nothing about.)

Impressing a younger date is easier
“One advantage of dating a younger woman is that you can play ‘cruise director’ — i.e., show her all your secret favorite places that she probably hasn’t experienced yet. They’re easier to impress and very willing to be escorted around. Women like it when you have a plan and it’s well-executed.”
— Bill, 33, New York, NY

Dear Bill,

You lack imagination and a sense of adventure. You lack maturity. You lack a lot of things you dickwad. Obviously you have deep-seated problems that make you feel like you have to impress someone. You’re an asshole. Grow up.


OK guys, have I made myself clear?

I’m glad to say that my husband is younger than me AND he loves the older version of me.  The older version of me is a lot of fun – in fact I’m a lot more fun now than I ever was (and believe me, that is a lot of fun.)

 And I’m glad to say my father brought up all of his daughters to think it was disgusting to date guys who were a lot older. Needless to say all of his daughters are married to younger men (3 and 6 years younger) or men exactly their own age. Thanks dad.




This is the stupid article: http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=4346&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=3000865



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