Of Fries And Let’s Be Honest Here

One of the best articles I’ve ever read about Fries and Relationships. Click here for: Of Fries And Let’s Be Honest Here.


This post gets a 5 plus stars from West Coast Review.

And if you aren’t following the blog Of Fries and Men (offriesandmen.com) do yourself a favor and follow it.

Ideas with old Vampires, scraps of paper and strange young men.

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Just a bit of silly Friday fun…


Relationships: The partnership or partnerships – trying to find the road of happiness

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Thoughtful words on life and love and relationships. A blog worth checking out. musicaddictjane.wordpress.com



Conflicted Feelings

More relationship advice from The Romance Genie. Click here for: Conflicted Feelings.


The Romance Genie is a fairly new blog from Griffin Thomas. He answers questions about romance and relationships. Check it out at theromancegenie.wordpress.com


An email from a proud deadbeat dad

This is one of the most powerful blog posts I’ve ever read.

Click here for: An email from a proud deadbeat dad.

For everyone who is a real dad, a dad who is there for his kids (that includes step dads, uncles or anyone who is there for a kid) I stand up and cheer for you. Every child needs a father in their life – a father who is there with unconditional love. A father who has the balls to take responsibility for the child he has created. Real men take care of their kids.

Thank you Matt Walsh for writing the words that hit home and will continue to hit home for so many.

If you aren’t following Matt Walsh do yourself a favor and check him out at themattwalshblog.com

Night of the Living Dead – Ex-boyfriend Version

Just a little bit of Relationship fun. Click here for: Night of the Living Dead – Ex-boyfriend Version.


Love her for who she is, not what you want her to be…

A little romantic advice from the mistress of romance: Love her for who she is, not what you want her to be….


And a lot of common sense thrown in there too!


How to write a response to a love letter (which is more fun if it isn’t addressed to YOU)

Click here for: How to write a response to a love letter (which is more fun if it isn’t addressed to YOU).

The blog post here was written in March 2013 on my “other” blog. Yes, there is another one which is more or less an alternate universe or something like that. Anyway, this post continues to be really really really popular.

So anyway, have fun, and if you’re writing love letters and need a little help you’ll know where to go.

How many times a week do you shave? If you answer incorrectly, we may have to kill you.

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If you don’t think this is both brilliant and funny and if you don’t learn something by it…well then there is no hope for you. SO relax and read it and enjoy.


If you aren’t following the blog “Lucy’s Football” you should be. You REALLY should be.

Love at First Sight – 20 Years Later

Yes, an original sappy article on West Coast Review….

Love at First Sight  – 20 Years Later

20 years ago (sometime in the past month or two) I want walking on the river with my ex-live-in-boyfriend. He was sweet that day, and mature and handsome. So good looking that he was often stopped and asked if he was a certain Hollywood leading man (we live in California so leading men are in town from time to time and a few even live not too far away).

He asked me if, after 18 months after I moved out, if I’d consider getting back together with him. It was very sweet. BUT….

I told him I’d been seeing someone for a few months and I really liked him. I thought he might be “the one” and I wanted to be with him – the new guy.

20 years and almost 17 years married and a teenage daughter later…I’m still with the new guy.

I was right; he was “the one”.

I knew he was the one because it was love at first sight. I’ll write that down again LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. Yes, it happens. It is real.

We’ve been through a lot over the past 20 years, good and bad, but it keeps getting better.

I met him through a friend who’d (before I met him) described my husband as “An asshole with a big nose”.  Now my daughter says, “Dad rocks the big nose.”

He walked into the room and I knew. I just knew. Instant attraction. He was cute with a smile and moved like he owned the world. We started to talk – for hours. He was 31. I was 34. It was like we’d known each other for years.

And now we HAVE known each other for years.

This is why I love him:

  • I knew he’d make a great dad. He said he wanted to be a great dad. I also knew that he would be a partner in parenting – not leave it all up to me or see me as a rival for a child’s attention. He never had a father so he was bound and determined to be a good dad.
  • He is a flirt. I mean this in the best way. When he walks into a room he can make every single woman in the room feel beautiful and special. I mean every woman – ugly, beautiful, young, old, low self esteem. It is a joy to see.
  • He irons and does laundry. Really. He irons MY SHIRTS.
  • He cleans.
  • He cooks like an Iron Chef. Really. And he cleans it up.
  • He fixes things…cars, furniture, stuff around the house, jewelry, anything.
  • He is usually the straight man in the relationship but that’s ok.
  • He is such a guy. He isn’t one of those sensitive guys that wants to listen to Kenny-G (no offense to Kenny-G fans) and sit in the tub for hours until we’re prunes. He is a romantic but in way that isn’t trivial or trite.
  • He puts up with all of my weirdness. Aside from this blog I write a Vampire Mommy blog (he never reads my writing but thinks it is good but still thinks it is weird). I have some odd friends. I make nonstop puns and jokes. I break everything and spill everything. I forget things. My glasses are always dirty. I’m a mess. And he loves me through it all.
  • He thinks I’m a good mom.
  • He likes a family dinner every night – not so I have to cook after a long day at work (which I let him do as much as possible) but so we can talk, as a family. We talk about everything, school, work, friends, science, art, history, the turkeys that walk down the street…everything.
  • Which leads me to say that he talks. We communicate. He makes and effort and it pays off.
  • He has always been there for me through every crisis with my family.
  • He loved my dad. He said my father was the dad he never had. That means a lot.
  • He is interested in EVERYTHNG! Cars, art, antiques, fishing, books, sports, electronics, travel, nature, space, education – everything.
  • He takes parenting seriously.
  • He always puts our daughter and me first. We are his family. We’re not the family he was born into – we’re the family he picked.
  • And that is the short list. Did I mention he irons? Did I mention how cute he is? Did I mention how good he looks all dressed up in a suit?

I found out two days ago that he is in remission. Yes, the big C came to our house. And he told it HELL no. Thanks to early screening and aggressive treatment and good doctors.

Another big thing: I found his family. He didn’t know who is father was. I searched for 6 years and found not so dear old dad, but I also found a wonderful, fantastic, amazing family INCLUDING an older sister he never even knew about. He was 40 years old.

Now at age 50, and 20 years together, he is always holding my hand, sitting close, stealing a kiss, telling me he loves me and being there for me always. And in turn, I am there for him.