Were you molested by Dr. Atkinson?

I’m sharing my friend’s story about an orthodontist who would grope and otherwise molest his patients. I will call my friend Matilda.

In the late 1970’s when she was a teenager she went to an orthodontist in Carmichael, CA named Dr. Atkinson. He had a busy practice on Fair Oaks Blvd., near Marshall.

Matilda remembered that he was a nice looking man who liked to talk a lot. His receptionists and assistants were friendly, except for one young woman. The unfriendly one wore heavy eye make-up, and had nasty looking long finger nails (assumed fake.) The waits in the waiting room were long – often over an hour.

Dr. Atkinson liked to talk about his airplane, and other expensive things he had. He also had five or six children, and a wife.

He also would molest and grope his female patients while he cheerfully talked.

Matilda said when she grew up, as a teen in the 1970’s that nobody would have believed her. Her parents were from a generation where a respected doctor would NEVER do anything like that. The words of teenage girls were not valued.

Parents were too busy worrying about teenage boys. It wasn’t the boys they needed to worry about. They should have worried about predatory adult MEN who preyed on children, teens, and young adults.

At the high school there were rumors about a couple of male teachers who took nude photos of female teachers. There were also rumors of at least one of the teachers having sex with star struck young female students. Nobody reported these men. Nobody would have listened to students.

But back to Dr. Atkinson….

Matilda compared notes with other girls at her high school who went to him. They all experienced the same thing.

This man would feel up, grope, and molest girls while they sat to have their braces tightened. He took advantage of them. He knew they wouldn’t talk. Their experiences would forever be unseen.

He took something from these girls. He took away their self-worth. He took away their sense of safety. He took away any sense of trust they might have had with adult men. He made them feel like they didn’t matter.

After forty years it still makes Matilda angry and uncomfortable.

If YOU were molested by Dr. Atkinson please share your story. I want this guy to be called out publicly for what he did. He is a pervert and what he did was WRONG. 

He would be in his 80’s now (or late 70’s.) He might still be alive.

A dentist who had an office a few doors down said Atkinson had vanished without a trace. Nobody knew where he went.

I don’t care if he wife or kids read this. I want them to know that he was a bad man. I don’t care if he was a good father – he was a horrible person who took advantage of young girls who were afraid to speak up. These were young girls who did not know they could speak up. They had no voice. 

For anyone else out there who is reading this: Tell your children, teens, and young adults in your life that NOBODY can grope, molest, touch, grab, poke, kiss, or do ANYTHING to your body without your consent. Tell the young people in your life to immediately REPORT anyone who does this to them. Let them know that YOU will believe them.

Matilda kept silent because she didn’t think anyone would listen. When she told the story to her family years later they acted as if she had said nothing. It was uncomfortable. Don’t be uncomfortable – be brave and take the side of your child, your young friend, your niece or nephew, your brother or sister. Take the side of the young person who has been hurt.

Don’t be silent. Come out of your comfort zone. Be there for young people who are prey to these monsters like the orthodontist Dr. Atkinson.





Shut your nasty disgusting dirty little mouth

Shut your nasty disgusting dirty little mouth

My daughter wants me to write the vice principal of her high school about sexual harassment at school. It seems as if it is part of the school culture.To me it seems off that in this day and age, in the United States, in California, that we’d have to deal with this problem.

via Shut your nasty disgusting dirty little mouth.


Click on the link above for the rest of the article.

Graduation Commencement Speech #2 – Think Like Your Mom

Graduation Commencement Speech #2 – Think Like Your Mom

You’ll be leaving home soon to make your way in the big wide world. One thing to remember is your mom. Never forget your mom. All of my advice to you comes from mom. So here we go…

Think like a mom. It could be your mom, or the mom you wished you had. Moms know everything, or at least the good ones do.

Love like a mom, because nobody can love like that.

Trouble shoot like a mom. With a butter knife and a roll of duct tape the average mom can fix anything. With a kiss she can fix everything.

Multitask like a mom. Your mom is the ultimate in management. Think about it – she has 1 or more children, a husband and maybe other relatives to deal with. Mix in work, feeding everyone, managing the house, pets (they take up a lot of time), volunteer work, driving everyone to hell and back… and add about 34,000 other things to this list. If you can multitask like your mom you can do anything.

Laugh like a mom. I laugh so hard I cry and my sides hurt. That is what moms do.

Find joy in small things like a mom. Every wonder why your mom takes time to point out bats in the night sky or worms in the ground? And you thought it was for you…

Fight like a mom. No Army General can defend his fort like a mom will defend her children.

Your mom always tells you “Don’t give up.” Well she was right. She will always be right. Never give up. Don’t give up hope or trust or peace of mind. Don’t give up your will to survive. Don’t give up your desires or your dreams. Don’t give up when doors slam in your face. Don’t give up when everything around you caves in, because it will and you’ll have to deal with it. And you can deal with it. Your mom gave you the tools you need to survive and thrive.

So don’t forget mom. One day your own kids will thank you for it.

What I hope you’ll tell your children about me

When you’re my age I’ll be 94. You’re 14 now. Things have changed a lot since I was 14. Then again a lot of things haven’t changed. But how I raised you is a lot different than how your dad and I were raised. 

I hope you will tell your kids:

My mom was so funny.

We laughed so much.

We always had fun.

At dinner we talked about everything. I could always talk with my mom and dad.

My parents guided me and were firm but they never judged me.

My parents told me how important for me to keep my reputation good.

They taught me the value of friendship and true friends.

They taught me to love art, science and history.

They showed me that it was ok to be myself.

They showed me that it was OK to be a little different without being weird.

They gave me a lot of hugs.

My mom put me first.

My mom taught me that only children are strong children.

My mom told me that even though I have a small family that I will never be alone. She was right.

My mom took me to concerts. She took me to the opera. She took me to rock concerts. She took me to a lot of rock concerts.

My mom was the cool mom. All of my friends liked her.

My mom was always busy.

My mom loved to read.

My mom wrote the most amazing stories.

My mom loved wine and her cats.

My mom always did what she thought was right.

My mom encouraged my dreams.

My mom believed in me.

My mom told me that I could do anything.

My mom and I had so many adventures – even after I was grown.

My mom worked full time and I’m so proud of her. She was great at what she did. She set a good example for me.

My mom always made me laugh.

My mom was so funny. I know I said that before but she was. She still is.

My mom loves me forever.

I love my mom.

And I love my daughter. She is so funny.



What I learned from going to a metal concert with my teen

Sometimes the idea of taking your pre-teen or teen to a metal concert or any rock concert can be scary. But it can also be fun. Just do your research, don’t be a fool and relax and have fun. Also read this article.

Click here for: What I learned from going to a metal concert with my teen. This article was written after going to a Black Veil Brides concert but it could apply to any rock concert at a small to medium sized venue or any event with your teenagers.


What I learned from going to a metal concert with my teen

Spring and summer brings out the concert tours. I’ve been taking teens to concerts for a few years. It has always been fun. It has always been exciting. It has always been well worth it.

Last year we saw Black Veil Brides when they played in Sacramento, California.

Click here for: What I learned from going to a metal concert with my teen.

Since then we’ve seen Fall Out Boy, Panic at the Disco and Twenty One Pilots and will soon see All Time Low and Twenty One Pilots again. Then it is on to Warped Tour.

I like the old music but I’m really enjoying the new music the teens in my life have introduced me to.


A Letter to my Children… About Love, Butter and Chicken Bones

Click here for a wonderful post about love, parenting, being a mom and well… take my word for it, this is a MUST READ: A Letter to my Children… About Love, Butter and Chicken Bones.

This post gets 5 our of 5 stars from West Coast Review.

I just discovered this wonderful thoughtful and fun blog Mostly Beautiful Things (mostlybeautifulthings.com). Take a look, check it out. you’ll be glad you did.


Secret lives and private stories

Reading, writing and being inspired.

Click here for: Secret lives and private stories.

To the Woman Behind Me in Line at the Grocery Store

Click here for: To the Woman Behind Me in Line at the Grocery Store.


I thought this was just another article about the economy… but it was so much more. It is about being human. It is about caring and giving and giving back. It is about those little steps that will make things better.

Vampire Maman’s Recommendations for Parenting Books

The ultimate list of parenting books  – click here for: Vampire Maman’s Recommendations for Parenting Books.

My recommendation about parenting is to DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOUR FAMILY AND YOUR KIDS. Period. End of discussion. But read the article anyways because it will make you laugh.