A Message to my Facebook Friends: I Get it.

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Living The American Scream

I get it, you love to run and you’re killing it every day in preparation for some ridiculously pointless marathon when we all know the real satisfaction you get is from having enviable legs.

I get it, Crossfit has changed your life and you now firmly believe that if everyone did it, they would all be similarly transformed.

I get it, you only eat meat and your diet makes you strong like bull.

I get it, you only eat veggies and secretly wish to lynch bacon-lovers and throttle those who think Vegan is a newly-discovered planet.

I get it, you don’t really want anyone to know exactly what you’re talking about, but feel compelled to get something off your chest, so you opt for irritating ambiguity, your posts so obscure nobody knows whether it’s actually time to orchestrate an intervention.

We are all to some extent guilty.

I happen to…

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What I hope you’ll tell your children about me

When you’re my age I’ll be 94. You’re 14 now. Things have changed a lot since I was 14. Then again a lot of things haven’t changed. But how I raised you is a lot different than how your dad and I were raised. 

I hope you will tell your kids:

My mom was so funny.

We laughed so much.

We always had fun.

At dinner we talked about everything. I could always talk with my mom and dad.

My parents guided me and were firm but they never judged me.

My parents told me how important for me to keep my reputation good.

They taught me the value of friendship and true friends.

They taught me to love art, science and history.

They showed me that it was ok to be myself.

They showed me that it was OK to be a little different without being weird.

They gave me a lot of hugs.

My mom put me first.

My mom taught me that only children are strong children.

My mom told me that even though I have a small family that I will never be alone. She was right.

My mom took me to concerts. She took me to the opera. She took me to rock concerts. She took me to a lot of rock concerts.

My mom was the cool mom. All of my friends liked her.

My mom was always busy.

My mom loved to read.

My mom wrote the most amazing stories.

My mom loved wine and her cats.

My mom always did what she thought was right.

My mom encouraged my dreams.

My mom believed in me.

My mom told me that I could do anything.

My mom and I had so many adventures – even after I was grown.

My mom worked full time and I’m so proud of her. She was great at what she did. She set a good example for me.

My mom always made me laugh.

My mom was so funny. I know I said that before but she was. She still is.

My mom loves me forever.

I love my mom.

And I love my daughter. She is so funny.

 

MT

Vampire Maman’s Recommendations for Parenting Books

The ultimate list of parenting books  – click here for: Vampire Maman’s Recommendations for Parenting Books.

My recommendation about parenting is to DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOUR FAMILY AND YOUR KIDS. Period. End of discussion. But read the article anyways because it will make you laugh.

 

Creativity In The Face Of Depression

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A thoughtful (and really great) article from Julie at deadlyeverafter.com.

If you aren’t following Kristen and Julie at Deadly Ever After do yourself a favor and check them out.

 

 

With all the debate on having kids and working my answer is…

I’m going to vent:

I strongly believe that kids who get out in the world and experience the community of other children do better than kids who are isolated at home with only their mothers and siblings. I feel that all kids need to be socialized, just like dogs, or they’ll never be able to catch up once they get to grade school. I also am sick and tired of people who post crap saying that mothers who work don’t do a good job. Working moms do a damn good job are closer to their kids than anyone who writes that crap could ever know, and the children of working mothers are proud of their moms. I don’t know a single working mom who doesn’t think of her kids 24/7, put them first and spend every free moment with those kids. It is about quality with your kids and bringing them up to be strong and happy adults (in my opinion.)

Every family is different and every choice is different – but make sure your choices are educated choices and not just a jacked up gut reaction misguided myths. And stop trying to crap on working moms and the hard choices we have to make.

We’re not going to stop working so deal with it or shut the F up.

For a brief article that I approve see: With all the debate on having kids and working my answer is….

There is no such thing as a “part time mom”

I’m a working mom.

I am also a FULL TIME MOM. I will ALWAYS be a FULL TIME MOM.

I might not be physically with my child but I am always there. I am ALWAYS the mom – full time – even when I’m at my office job. I am there.

In the fall my daughter will be starting high school. I’ve worked full time since she was 11 weeks old.

I challenge ANYONE to be as close to their child as I am to mine or to have done a better job at parenting.

People are always telling me “You and your daughter are so close.” Indeed we are and that is no accident. She is a happy, successful and well adjusted child with a good sense of humor. She is independent. She is popular. She does well in school. And she looks forward to a hopeful future full of possibilities. She has the world in her hands. AND she is proud of her mom – and her dad who also works full time (and is a FULL TIME DAD).

The same goes for 99% of the working moms I know.

There is no such thing as a part time mom. Period. End of story. Enough.

~ MT