Check list for my new unemployed life

Today is the first Monday in 30 years I’ve been without a job, otherwise known as unemployed. Last Thursday I, along with about a dozen of my coworkers, were told our jobs were eliminated due to the fact the company we worked for isn’t making any money. Lay-offs. I was there for 15 years. So here I am now, at home, my first day of not being employed by anyone. It is sort of weird.

In order to stay on track (and stay sane) I’ve made a list of things to do while I’m unemployed.

  • File for unemployment insurance. Check. Did that already.
  • Look for work. I spent three¬†hours looking this morning.
  • Keep a notebook with all of the job site passwords, user names and all things related.
  • Update resume. Tomorrow. Today it is too painful.
  • Clean the house. Not sure if I’ll get to that one.
  • Plan dinner.
  • Act like a stay at home mom. HA HA HA HA. Like I’m going to do THAT. Seriously so much of my identity has been identifying with the title “working mom.” I’m an amazing MOM and corporate type professional. Yes, I own suits and heels. I’d rather work in jeans but…I can do anything.
  • Get the mail.
  • Notice that the crowd in the grocery store is different in the morning than it is after work. The most fun are the late night around midnight shoppers.
  • Turn the sound up on the radio.
  • Think about going to the gym. GO TO THE GYM.
  • Avoid the kitchen.
  • Fill the bird feeder.
  • Make a huge cut out of a foot and make Sasquatch tracks on the trail in the woods behind my house.
  • Dance because NOBODY is looking.
  • Clean out my car.
  • Think about what I really want to do with my life.
  • Keep positive.
  • Keep positive.
  • Keep positive.
  • Stretch in the middle of the day.
  • Network. Contact everyone.
  • Try something new.
  • Think about how great I am and what wonderful skills and talents I have.
  • Take a deep breath.
  • Make up more bad puns to annoy my husband.
  • Have lunch with my husband.
  • Hang out with my husband during the day. He owns his own business so I can show up with the dog anytime I want and even give him a kiss.
  • Figure out a few interview outfits.
  • Clean my closet.
  • Buy cat food.
  • Pick my daughter up from school on Monday. I’ve worked all of her 15 years so the only day I’ve ever been able to pick her up is Friday.
  • Learn to roller skate. There is an adult class on Tuesday mornings. I’d be safer sky diving or swimming with sharks but hey, I like to live dangerously.
  • Get up every single morning by 6:30. Stay on a schedule. Don’t just sit around.
  • Stay un-lazy.
  • Create art.
  • Write.
  • Blog. (which is writing but a different kind of writing)
  • Read.
  • Finish my novel because there is a spot waiting for it on top of the best seller list.
  • Apply for jobs even if it is a trip-to-Mars long shot.
  • Don’t be afraid of people thinking I’m strange or different.
  • If I question anything the answer is always “go for it.”
  • The other answer is, “yes.”
  • Smile. A lot.
  • Don’t sell myself short.
  • Be brave.
  • Get enough sleep.
  • Put stuff on ebay.
  • Develop my own reality TV show.
  • Become a YouTube star.
  • Call NPR and tell them I want a job. I have a lot to say and know a lot of interesting people and things. I also have a great radio voice.
  • Dance some more.
  • Pet the dog.
  • Pet the cats.
  • Look up old boyfriends on the internet. HA HA HA just kidding, I did that years ago.
  • Have faith in myself and my God given abilities. I’m not a religious person but I have untapped talents that need to be used – NOW – or I might get struck by lightning.
  • Make myself believe that now is my time.
  • Keep telling myself “NOW IS MY TIME.”

 

OK I’m off to the gym.

 

~ Marla

I'm going to look exactly like when I interview for jobs.
I’m going to look exactly like when I interview for jobs.

One of the things that bugged me about my old job was people who called women "girls." I'm trying not to think about that place.
One of the things that bugged me about my old job was people who called women “girls.” I’m trying not to think about that place.

Vampire Maman’s Recommendations for Parenting Books

The ultimate list of parenting books¬† – click here for: Vampire Maman’s Recommendations for Parenting Books.

My recommendation about parenting is to DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOUR FAMILY AND YOUR KIDS. Period. End of discussion. But read the article anyways because it will make you laugh.

 

With all the debate on having kids and working my answer is…

I’m going to vent:

I strongly believe that kids who get out in the world and experience the community of other children do better than kids who are isolated at home with only their mothers and siblings. I feel that all kids need to be socialized, just like dogs, or they’ll never be able to catch up once they get to grade school. I also am sick and tired of people who post crap saying that mothers who work don’t do a good job. Working moms do a damn good job are closer to their kids than anyone who writes that crap could ever know, and the children of working mothers are proud of their moms. I don’t know a single working mom who doesn’t think of her kids 24/7, put them first and spend every free moment with those kids. It is about quality with your kids and bringing them up to be strong and happy adults (in my opinion.)

Every family is different and every choice is different – but make sure your choices are educated choices and not just a jacked up gut reaction misguided myths. And stop trying to crap on working moms and the hard choices we have to make.

We’re not going to stop working so deal with it or shut the F up.

For a brief article that I approve see: With all the debate on having kids and working my answer is….

Writing Space

A wonderful post about my friend and REAL blogger Gina McKnight.

 

You’ll like her blog, her attitude towards everything, her sense of beauty and her horses and cats.

Click anywhere on the text above to be transported.

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There is no such thing as a “part time mom”

I’m a working mom.

I am also a FULL TIME MOM. I will ALWAYS be a FULL TIME MOM.

I might not be physically with my child but I am always there. I am ALWAYS the mom – full time – even when I’m at my office job. I am there.

In the fall my daughter will be starting high school. I’ve worked full time since she was 11 weeks old.

I challenge ANYONE to be as close to their child as I am to mine or to have done a better job at parenting.

People are always telling me “You and your daughter are so close.” Indeed we are and that is no accident. She is a happy, successful and well adjusted child with a good sense of humor. She is independent. She is popular. She does well in school. And she looks forward to a hopeful future full of possibilities. She has the world in her hands. AND she is proud of her mom – and her dad who also works full time (and is a FULL TIME DAD).

The same goes for 99% of the working moms I know.

There is no such thing as a part time mom. Period. End of story. Enough.

~ MT